It’s not that she’s not getting to the point, it’s that he doesn’t get the point.

Would you like to learn to listen to your partner??

Would you like your partner to learn to listen to you???


Men talk to their partners to convey information. Women talk to their partners to connect with them emotionally.


The more detail women go into with their male partners, the closer they feel. But, the more detail they go into, the more annoyed their men might feel because they have either heard this all before or she is not getting to the point.

It’s not that she’s not getting to the point, it’s that he doesn’t get the point.


My partner and I do our own version of this dance. And we TEACH couples how to connect!!

He's learned to ask me if I need him to do something, in response to my blah, blah, blah....

I've learned to tell him, I just need you to listen. After a recent incident where I really needed his emotional support, he said, "I don't know what I can do." My reply, "You just did it, I needed you to listen."


And, it's not just women who need to connect emotionally, we're just more obvious. Men need it too, but they haven't been taught the tools, or given the message that it's ok to need.

Would you like to learn to listen to your partner??

Would you like your partner to learn to listen to you???


Contact me at www.glorizeltzer.com


(805) 648-3535

Relationship Quandaries

September 10, 2014

by, Glori Zeltzer, MA, MFT

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